Monday, August 24, 2015

Break Up Etiquette: Should You Give Back Your Jewelry?

Break-ups happen and they are never fun, even if it’s is for the best for both parties involved. But what do you do with jewelry given to you by an ex? Is giving back gifts after a break up the right thing to do? What should you do with an engagement ring after a break up?
This is a much debated question sparking conversations all over the web, and depending on where you look, the answer can vary widely showing just how divided people are on the issue. There is even a website just for broken-hearted women called www.exboyfriendjewelry.com where they can sell jewelry given to them by an ex to the highest bidder!
We’ve done some digging trying to determine if there is any sort of consensus on the best course of action and what we found is both interesting and helpful.
Here is some of what Reddit users think (and have done) when they found themselves in this very predicament.
Joyb27: “The only jewelry I’ve returned was an engagement ring. Legally it’s a conditional gift and I was the one to break it off anyway. Anything else however, is totally mine. I’m keeping my pretties. I’d refuse even if asked.”
Kidkvlt: “I keep it and wear it. Same with clothing. They were gifts.”
Iamaturkeykillme: “I’ve kept the jewelry that my SOs bought for me, but firmly, firmly believe that if it’s a family heirloom you should return it. Seriously. I have a friend who kept an heirloom that her ex gave her, and it seems so disrespectful. It’s a memory from his grandmother, and not hers to keep.”
_ataraxia: “I’m not sure I would return jewelry or anything else my ex gave me. Gifts weren’t given with the stipulation that I could only keep it as long as the relationship lasted.”
Stevenmctowely: “I sold mine and bought fancy new pants winter coat. My sister called it my freedom jacket.”
Bronxie: “Only an engagement ring (which is a promise of marriage). Everything else is yours.”
Fluffypandi: “Depends on how the breakup happened. On that note, I had a bracelet that made its way to the bottom of a lake.”
LadyWhiskers: “I have kept mine, because it’s nice and after a year or so there is very little sentiment attached.”
Tripometer: “I was given a pink sapphire necklace in my last LTR. I still wear it every day, not because it reminds me of him or anything, but because I really like it. He asked for it back when we broke up, and I said no.”
So what do the men of Reddit have to say?
Vorpalblab: “Guy here. After the break ups (I am old and have had more than one) everything I have as a gift were still gifts. I did not expect them back. Even from the fiancé who decided not to continue after all. Gifts in general are not items of barter, nor are they for sale. An exception might be an heirloom or other thing of similar nature. Engagement rings are also non-returnable from my point of view. That may be the pre active cheapest divorce ever and a warning to me for the future about rash decisions.”
Im_probably_naked: “As a dude, I would not want the jewelry back.”
Tedivm: “I’m a guy, and I would feel really weird if someone returned jewelry to me. What am I supposed to do with it? Giving it to someone else would be weird, keeping it would be useless, and now I have a chore of finding some place to sell it. At the same time it seems kind of petty. Just because we’re no longer dating doesn’t mean that everything was bad or that the good memories can’t be reflected on happily. The jewelry will make her far happier than it will me, and I can’t think of a good reason to take that away.”
In conclusion…
A_caidan_abroad sums it up pretty perfectly…”Heirlooms, engagement rings or anything of particular value (financial or sentimental), I would offer back. Assuming the break up was relatively amicable and there are no especially hard feelings, I’d likely continue to wear the rest. If it was a terrible break-up, I might give it away.”
  • Engagement rings and family heirlooms should always be returned. The guy might not want the engagement ring back, but you should always ask. If the guy does not want you to return the jewelry back, it is yours to do what you like with it. You can keep it and wear it, throw it in the deepest, darkest ocean you can find, or sell it and go on an amazing vacation or buy that way-too-expensive bag you’ve been eyeing.
  • All other jewelry given to you throughout the course of your relationship was given as a gift, which has no expectation of return and holds no stipulation that it is only for you if you are still together.

What are your thoughts? Do you think jewelry should be returned after a break-up? How have you handled similar situations in your life? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!

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